MY BOYFRIEND IS BISEXUAL! HOW TO REACT IF YOUR GF/BF COMES OUT AS BI

If you are wondering what to do if your partner is bisexual, you probably have a lot of questions and even doubts about whether you are with the right person, or you may be afraid that at some point he may leave the relationship and replace you with another person of the same sex. In today’s post, we are going to help you deal with this situation in the best possible way! 😉

What is sexual orientation?

Sexual orientation refers to the attraction we feel towards other people. This type of attraction can be not only physical or sexual but also emotional, romantic, and affectionate. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with a person’s biological sex, sexual identity (the way in which a person identifies psychologically as male or female), or social role (cultural roles of masculine or feminine behaviour).

According to some pioneers of this type of study, such as the creators of the Kinsey sexual orientation scale, people can have different types of sexual orientation and we can classify them simply in this way:

• People who are attracted to others of the opposite sex who are considered heterosexual.
• People who are attracted to others of the same sex called homosexuals. In the case of men they are considered gay and women are referred to as lesbians.
• People who may be attracted to others of both sexes are called bisexuals. This type of sexual orientation may also be attracted to people with different gender identities, e.g. transgender men and women, intergender, agender, etc.
• People who are not sexually attracted to anyone are often referred to as asexual.

It is important to mention that many people don’t feel identified by any label (bisexual, homosexual, lesbian, etc.) but others feel more comfortable when they assign themselves a certain label. Sexual orientation can remain the same throughout life but can also sometimes vary depending on who you are attracted to or who you are in an active relationship with.

My partner is bisexual: what should I do?

Here are some tips and recommendations that you can take into account to help you know what to do about this situation that has you puzzled right now.

Stop and think about how you feel

This news may have been totally unexpected and you may be in a state of shock right now, especially because you have never been in a similar situation before. However, this very fact that it has never happened to you before, or that you may not be well prepared or well informed and have certain ideas or prejudices about this issue, is making you feel very uneasy and confused.

Therefore, it’s important that you put a stop to and give yourself some space to reflect on how you feel, what are the doubts or ideas you have about bisexuality, what are the things that worry you the most about your partner is bisexual, etc. Try to clarify your feelings and thoughts very well before moving on to the next step, which would be to talk to your partner.

Talk to your partner

Let your partner know in all sincerity and respect how you are feeling at the moment, what your doubts and fears are or were and have now been resolved, and try to get all these issues clarified by your partner and understood by you. For example, if because of this you have started to question whether your partner would like to formalize the relationship more like you and you have never asked him before, dare to do so and make all your doubts clear (and him, of course).

That is to say, just because you are bisexual doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to have a formal relationship or not, you could also tell them this if she were heterosexual, it’s always good to know the expectations you have in a relationship. 

Vows of trust

Remember that the fact that your partner is bisexual and has confessed it to you is a sign of the level of trust he has in you and is an aspect that should also be valued. Think that not just because your partner is bisexual, your relationship will have less “weight” so to speak than if you were with someone who is heterosexual.

Fidelity, trust, and love have nothing to do with a person’s sexual orientation, so if your partner is showing you that they want to be with you and that they feel comfortable in the relationship, you have no reason to distrust them. The chances that he will be unfaithful to you or that you will be unfaithful to him are the same as if your partner were heterosexual, as we saw earlier, one has nothing to do with the other. This depends on factors such as level of commitment, personal values, respect, among others, independent of sexual orientation.

Make a decision

After giving yourself some space to think, after you have talked to your partner after they have resolved all your doubts and shared their ideas and expectations about your relationship, it’s important that you are clear about your ideas and feelings and make the best decision for you. Remember that the important thing is that you act in coherence with yourself and that you feel comfortable and calm in whatever relationship you decide to be in.